Tunvey Gogia is a very transparent person. You can see in her countenance how you affect her. Her being allows the other to permeate, percolate, pervade…and she still remains secure about her being, for she’s not fixated about who she is. That makes her an explorer and an excellent conversationalist.
Perhaps this one quality makes her connect better with people at large. When she lets people in, they feel good. She has a wonderful presence, which is not just about her looks. She is a mother of a daughter, and is married for a quarter of a century to her teenaged heartthrob.
She is a life coach, and says the right things with the right intensity and helps people do right things to make progress in their lives to attain greater fulfillment. And her ability to connect with people is about respecting their idiosyncrasies as a way of expression. The curiosity to know others is a way of connecting with self. Therefore, she started a talk show called Unbox with Tunvey, which, as she says, is about "having inspirational conversations with people who lead unconventional lives.' And that’s beautiful!
An existentialist would say life's a blind date with destiny, but to Tunvey you can always light a lamp. Or in other words, our environment or the context we are born in shapes us–and we have little say on when, how, where we are born and things that are gonna happen to us over a lifetime. While our circumstances shape us, as we go along, we garner the ability to shape our environment. And there’s a tussle between the context and freedom from the context.
In the quantum world (we both are fond of)–we live variously–life’s a bundle of contractions and paradoxes, we perhaps have to lose to win, we have to get emancipated from our contexts to create a new context. And the past and the need to shape the future are sticky thoughts in our mind, and that have the effect of blurring the vision in the present. Life becomes a mirage.
In any case, life's not a sharp image; it gets blurry when there’s a need for clarity. And the past, sort of conditions us, to look at the things and interpret it in our quintessential way. And there is a good chance that we get tired of the way we deal with the world, that to me is the middle age crisis. To some it may happen very early, and there are some who never really faced a situation like this.
She, by way of this initiative, Unbox with Tunvey, is helping people discuss their being without the contexts, the x and y axis of life. But delve in other dimensions of our being that may not be visually conjurable, but are felt deep down.
What makes conversations with her special is that she approaches the conversation without her own filters, she is open to suggestions, and it's not mere exchange of ideas, but energy, some ideas stay on, and affect a change in both the interviewee and the interviewed.
More often than not, feeling comfortable in her benign presence, they talk, or rather, pour their heart out. And her presence is an impetus, almost a catalyst, for people to be able to say things that they always wanted to but were struggling to find the right expression.
There are people, who have set ideas, and they have told their story so many times that they are on an auto-pilot mode when it comes to speaking about themselves. She's not enthused as the conversation did break the ice but didn't break new ground despite the erudite rendition, and the surefootedness of the ideas and expression make it less appealing. For the person didn’t open, or lost control to gain control, and uttered what he said from a position of power, almost a projection. Being vulnerable gives the real power. The ability to shun layers of protection, and projection, and to have the courage to be out in the open, and risk it all by being your real self, feel the wind, and the sun, and the elements, also makes for a good conversation.
Any description is limiting the phenomenon. But I will stick my neck out to say that sensitivity and receptiveness comes from leading a certain kind of life. And you identify with others and their struggle when you are open about your own. That's Tunvey's advantage.
Tunvey and I had a conversation too for this article. She was there with me in full. I could see things clearly because she didn’t employ filters, and was forthright. I felt she’s a mirror. By being open, she wasn’t only reflecting her being, but also me. She wants to know, more. And to know entails revealing. Delving in others gives her clarity about her own self. It’s an experience to talk to her, and sort of rediscover oneself in some measure while speaking with her. It’s an experience to witness her conversations.
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